A Humorist take on Modern (Southern) Etiquette Dilemmas

Rude Bitches Make Me Tired: Slightly Profane and Entirely Logical Answers to Modern Etiquette DilemmasRude Bitches Make Me Tired: Slightly Profane and Entirely Logical Answers to Modern Etiquette Dilemmas by Celia Rivenbark

My rating: 4 of 5 stars

I was told to check out this local author by a colleague. Admittedly the title was enough to pick it up off the shelves for further investigation. While it is advertised as being a modern day etiquette book, I found it to be more along the lines of a lengthy newspaper humorist column.

The format is set in question and answer format and while I don’t believe I will change any of my own personal mannerisms as a result of reading, I do think I have now been properly prepped as to how to behave if I ever meet the author in person.

I did find myself snorting in amusement over some of her observations, especially as I am familiar with the area. Her humor is very southern-centric and may not resonate well with other parts of the country.

Overall I found it to be an enjoyable quick read.

Strong characters wanted

The presents have been unwrapped, my house now refilled with fire trucks, transformers, and even a starter skateboard – you know, typical boy stuff. I swear if I still get the occasional adult acne it is because of all the testosterone I am exposed to daily in a house full of growing males.

My mom stopped by to enjoy a cup of coffee while the grandkids tore into their gifts. She offered to take my eldest son to see either Frozen or Walking with Dinosaurs later this week. My son, not being familiar with either movie needed a description to help in his decision making process. Frozen lost out the moment princesses were mentioned.

I had read that Frozen was supposed to be inspired by the old story of the Snow Queen and was somewhat surprised when I read how it had been adapted this time for the big screen. The original story was one of the first fairy tales I could remember reading which featured the girl coming to the rescue of the boy, but it seems that this retelling has made it more sugary sweet than the original. I guess I’ll probably never know for certain though.

Over the years, I have been somewhat bothered by how rare the theme of the strong female coming to the rescue seems to be, particularly in children’s and young adult stories / films. The Paper bag Princess, Brave, and The Ask and the Answer (the sequel to The Knife of Never Letting Go, Chaos Walking series), being notable exceptions. The recent princess trend thoroughly embraced by my nieces occasionally makes me shudder and glad to only have sons (though I admit they are adorable in their princess dresses – my nieces that is).

My novel, An Uncertain Faith, could be classified as Women’s fiction because it features a woman dealing with her marriage, motherhood, and her career. Why is this a subcategory? Is there such as thing as Men’s fiction? If so, what would be the criteria for inclusion? Would the book have to deal with sports, cars, and bodily gases? Oh right its just called fiction. Women do enjoy sports, cars, and some might even appreciate a good fart joke from time to time. Why then are books about family and marriage separated out or otherwise made to seem as if they are off limits?

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t consider myself a feminist. No, I like to think I am a gender equal opportunist. I am equally bothered by how few children’s stories and shows contain a present / involved, intelligent, and caring father. Up anyone? I still get angry at the kid’s dad in that movie, and where was Max’s father in the book, Where the Wild Things Are? Max is after the dog! Someone redirect and get mom some wine! Stat!

My children are truly blessed to have such a father. I love him dearly as my spouse, but I positively adore him as a parent to our sons. He tucks them in to bed and reads them stories just as much as I do. Yet we are always reading about how much the mom loves the child, misses the child, and vice versa with only the rarest mention of dad. Its a wonder my husband hasn’t gotten a complex yet. If anyone would like to recommend a good children’s book out there (kindergarten reading level) that features both parents equally, I’d love to hear from you.

That’s a wrap

There is a good chance that I may have forgotten a person or two on my shopping list, but I believe I may just be done with my holiday shopping, and I hope that I helped 5 others finish theirs a well.

For the past month I have been running a giveaway contest on goodreads.com. 5 copies of my book were up for grabs. The contest ended in the wee hours of this morning and the lucky five winners were chosen completely at random out of 822 entrants.

Looking at the results, I was happy to see that the book’s synopsis appealed to people across the country. Hopefully the rest of the book will appeal as well.

Getting on the Shelf

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Up until now, my strategy with regards to book sales had been nearly completely focused on electronic sales. I had heard so many stories about how difficult it was for the self-published author to get shelf space within the traditional brick and mortar store that it just wasn’t an avenue that I thought would be worth my time to pursue. Besides, I positively adore my e-reader, it is the wave of the future right???

Well e-readers may still be the wave of the future, but the feedback I received from the working mothers I met at the Raleigh Chamber of Commerce (or other online poll results) is anything to go on, I did need to give brick and mortar a second chance.

Luckily my neck of the woods boasts one of state’s, if not nation’s top independent book stores, Quail Ridge Books and Music.

Rather than being blown off, I was invited to sit by the fireplace and pitch my story while I was told about their impressive history, and their fierce independent spirit. As a result I am thrilled to report that by the end of the week, my novel, An Uncertain Faith, will be rubbing bookends with other local authors in their Southern Fiction section.

This store is also known for their numerous author events, so getting on their packed calendar is going to be a goal for 2014.

Fact: women are more successful self-published authors

As a female self-published author, I feel that it is my duty to reblog this article.

belindawilliamsbooks's avatarBelinda Williams

According to the recent Taleist survey of self-published writers, women authors are more successful than men.

Does this fact surprise you? It surprised me – not because I lack faith in my female counterparts (far from it), but because when you compare it to the traditional book publishing industry, it’s the men who dominate.

A good example of the situation women face in the traditional publishing world is documented by VIDA. They decided to count the reviews in a number of important literary publications and it revealed that male writers were up to 413% more likely to be reviewed than female writers in publications like The New York Review of Books, The Atlantic, Paris Review, The New Yorker, London Review of Books, Harper’s Magazine.

Forget publishers, I’m going it alone…

Before you make any final decisions, you may want to consider the cold, hard facts. While the traditional publishing world may not be the…

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